Monday, February 6, 2012

No entry to church if you turn up in this....

My Paper, Tuesday, Feburary 7, 2012, Page A2, Home
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Source Website: http://www.asiaone.com/News/Latest%2BNews/Singapore/Story/A1Story20120207-326228.html
By Sarah Chang, schang@sph.com.sg, my paper, Tuesday, Feb 07, 2012



PHOTO: Suit-able?: The samfoo that Ms Lisa Chew wore to church.
By STOMP
My Paper, Tuesday, Feburary 7, 2012, Page A2, Home


A WOMAN who went for Sunday mass at a Catholic church two weeks ago was shocked when a church warden approached her after the service and took issue with her outfit.

Ms Lisa Chew, a housewife in her 50s, was wearing a pink samfoo, a Chinese-style pantsuit that ended about 5cm above her ankles.

She was at the Church of St Anthony in Woodlands with her husband, Mr Eric Alagan, 56, a business consultant.

They have attended services at the church for more than a decade.

The warden, who looked to be in her 20s, told Ms Chew politely that she would not be allowed into the church if she turned up in the attire again, said Mr Alagan.

She was then handed a letter reminding her not to wear clothing that does not conform to the church's dress code.

The couple knew what the letter was about as they had seen wardens handing out similar letters in previous weeks' masses.

Ms Chew was taken aback as she had worn a similar outfit to the church last month but was not approached.

First mooted by the church in February last year, the dress code was implemented in December.

The guidelines were published in the church's weekly bulletin on Jan 1. The bulletin was given out to all churchgoers.

The code allows women to wear skirts or dresses that end 2.5cm to 5cm above the knees.

So, "it doesn't make sense" that a samfoo pantsuit that ends just 5cm above the ankles is not allowed, said Mr Alagan.

He said: "Be reasonable and consistent. That's all I'm asking for."

Mr Alagan asked the parish priest via e-mail how the pantsuit "offended any sensitivities, or outraged anyone's modesty".

He added that "the priest's e-mailed reply read, 'There is no mention of modesty or immodesty. We say it is appropriate for pants to be full-length' ".

Frustrated with the reply, he posted a photo of his wife's outfit on citizen-journalism website Stomp last Friday.

The post has attracted over 26,000 views and about 165 comments.



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Some netizens think that churchgoers should follow the rules set by their church, while others consider the rules to be too "puritanical" (Rigorous in religious observance).

One netizen said: "I really don't see what is wrong with her dress. I can understand mini skirts being frowned (upon), but this is not in that league."

Another said: "What you wear speaks (volumes) about you. As a lawyer, you will not wear three-quarter pants to court because" it shows a lack of respect for the institution."

my paper contacted the church on Sunday for an explanation.

The Archdiocese of Singapore replied in an e-mail yesterday that it is reviewing the dress codes of all 31 parishes here to decide whether the guidelines should be "implemented at the Archdiocese (the district or churches under the jurisdiction of a bishop) level".

Dress codes at Catholic churches have become stricter in recent years. Novena Church's Father Clement Lee told my paper that a standardisation of dress-code guidelines may turn out to be "counter-productive" for the majority of parishioners.

"The challenge will be to make these guidelines applicable to the majority. But then again, most are already doing their part," he said.

"These are guidelines, not impositions. They are supposed to be recommended, rather than forced on someone.

If the Archdiocese wants all churches to undertake them, they should be called rules and regulations."

By Sarah Chang, schang@sph.com.sg, my paper, Tuesday, Feb 07, 2012



Definitely if you wear a hot little number like Scarlett Johannson, you’re going to get looks at your chest.
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Sunday, February 5, 2012

No Form of Success Comes without Rejection

From a blog where weekly lessons on life, love, fear, happiness, silence, meditation, yoga...are posted.
Source Website: http://lessonsfromthemonkimarried.blogspot.com/
Posted by Katherine Jenkins at 12:00 AM, Saturday, January 28, 2012



PHOTO: Rejection, Why Does It Hurt So Much?
Posted by Allan N. Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. Updated: Apr 30th 2009
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On a recent interview, a kind young man asked me, “So, what’s it like never to be rejected anymore?” I laughed so hard that I couldn’t answer. Of course, I still get rejected all the time. Being an award-winning, New York Times bestselling author doesn’t mean you get to avoid rejection. It only means that different people reject you.

What I have learned is that no form of success comes without rejection, whether it is the rejection slip from your dream agent or the cute boy who falls in love with your best friend.

When I was growing up, I spent some time thinking about what success truly was. I moved from Hong Kong to New York and worked in a Chinatown sweatshop with my family when I was only five years old. For a long time, success meant simply escaping that ruthless, draining life of manual labor. Then when I was lucky enough to study at Harvard, the world opened up to me. Suddenly, I had access to some of the brightest minds in the world. I began to realize that success might mean more than simply escaping. It might mean contributing too. That was when I made the decision to become a writer.



PHOTO: "You can get a pretty bad blowout. And then get a really great success. So much that the person who rejected may even regret it. Don’t take it personal and don’t let it get to you. She doesn’t know you and you don’t know her well enough to let it impact your life. Just stick to your instincts and have fun."
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All along my path, I slipped and fell and got up again. When my family and I worked as hard and as fast as we could in the sweatshop, the factory owner cut our wages so that we couldn’t earn any extra money. At school, I was the awkward, badly-dressed Chinese girl and on top of everything, I was a brain too. Few girls wanted to be my friends. The boy I liked didn’t know I was alive. My first teacher didn’t care that I didn’t speak a word of English and gave me a zero on every test. There were times when I felt rejected on every front.



PHOTO: "It hurts to be left out."
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As I became older, I learned English and became better assimilated (absorb into school environment). I was lucky enough to have a gift for school and achieved some success there, but with every step that I took, I faced new challenges and the possibility of rejection again. Do I hate rejection? Absolutely. If I could, I would incinerate every rejection letter I received. I want to curse and scream and stomp my feet like a three-year-old.



PHOTO: "There were times when I felt rejected on every front. With every step that I took, I faced new challenges and the possibility of rejection again."
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Then I take a deep breath. I tell myself that we all need to follow our own paths, whatever they are. I remember that I am worthwhile, even if I have just been rejected by this person or institution. I bear in mind that the world is big, and I will have another chance. This allows me to go on when I get rejected. I’ve seen that every person who succeeds in some way – whether it’s professionally or privately – has faced rejection many, many times and overcome it.



'I bear in mind that the world is big, and I will have another chance. This allows me to go on when I get rejected.'
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In fact, rejection lets me know that I’m continuing to challenge myself. If I only did things that came easily, I would stay in the safety of my comfort zone. That’s not enough for a full and satisfying life. So when it comes to rejection, I say: bring it on.


Jean Kwok immigrated from Hong Kong to Brooklyn when she was five and worked in a Chinatown clothing factory for much of her childhood. She won early admission to Harvard, where she worked as many as four jobs at a time, and graduated with honors in English and American literature, before going on to earn an MFA in fiction at Columbia.



PHOTO: Jean Kwok immigrated from Hong Kong to Brooklyn when she was five and worked in a Chinatown clothing factory for much of her childhood. She won early admission to Harvard, where she worked as many as four jobs at a time, and graduated with honors in English and American literature, before going on to earn an MFA in fiction at Columbia.
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Her debut novel Girl in Translation (Riverhead, 2010) became a New York Times bestseller. It has been published in 15 countries and chosen as the winner of an American Library Association Alex Award, a John Gardner Fiction Book Award finalist, a Barnes and Noble Discover Great New Writers Pick, an Orange New Writers title, an Indie Next Pick, a Quality Paperback Book Club New Voices Award nominee and the winner of Best Cultural Book in Book Bloggers Appreciation Week 2010. It was featured in The New York Times, USA Today, Entertainment Weekly, Vogue and O, The Oprah Magazine, among others. The novel was a Blue Ribbon Pick for numerous book clubs, including Book of the Month, Doubleday and Literary Guild.



PHOTO: Girl in Translation (eBook) by Jean Kwok
Kimberly Chang has her world turned upside-down when she moves with her mother from their home in Hong Kong to New York. But their new life doesn't quite live up to their expectations - living in a vermin-ridden apartment in Brooklyn, the pair only have a sometimes working oven to keep warm. They have nothing but debt and neither of them speaks a word of English. While her mother spends her days earning two cents a garment at a sweatshop, intellectually gifted eleven-year-old Kim faces a new and trying challenge: school. Exiled by language, estranged in a new culture and weighed down by staggering poverty, Kim must learn to translate not just her language but who she is as she straddles these two very different worlds. In this powerful story, Jean Kwok spins a moving tale of hardship and triumph, of heartbreak and love, of all that's said without words and all that gets lost in translation.
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PHOTO: Girl in Translation by Jean Kwok
Kimberly Chang and her mother move from Hong Kong to New York. A new life awaits them - making a new home in a new country. But all they can afford is a verminous, broken-windowed Brooklyn apartment. The only heating is an unreliable oven. They are deep in debt. And neither speaks one word of English. Yet there is hope. Eleven-year-old Kim goes to school. And though cut off by an alien language and culture - and forced by poverty to work nights in a sweatshop - she finds the classroom challenges liberating. In books and learning she'll be saved. But can Kim successfully turn the lost girl from Hong Kong into a happy American woman? And should she? Jean Kwok's powerful and moving tale of hardship and triumph, of heartbreak and love, speaks of all that gets lost in translation.
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Jean lives in the Netherlands with her husband and two sons.
Posted by Katherine Jenkins at 12:00 AM, Saturday, January 28, 2012

Learn more about Jean here:
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www.facebook.com/pages/Jean-Kwok/213583280524



PHOTO: Do I hate rejection? Absolutely. If I could, I would incinerate every rejection letter I received. I want to curse and scream and stomp my feet like a three-year-old.
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Friday, February 3, 2012

How to be happy

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By The Straits Times - January 30, 2012



PHOTO: Author Daniel Wong says you must run your own race and not the one other people think you should run. To be happy, you must become purpose-driven rather than performance-driven.
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Workplace Success: Be purpose-driven rather than performance-driven

WE SPEND so many hours working that it makes perfect sense to try to be happy, but moving to a state of cheerfulness involves some homework.

One road map came to me recently in the form of a book on the five steps to becoming a happy, fulfilled and successful student. While The Happy Student is aimed at students, it does have tips that apply to all, young or old.

Author Daniel Wong says you must run your own race and not the one other people think you should run. To be happy, you must become purpose-driven rather than performance-driven.



Happiness is a choice. Like any habit, the more you practice the more natural it will become. Take action and welcome more happiness into your life today.
PHOTO: Happiness is a choice. Like any habit, the more you practice the more natural it will become. Take action and welcome more happiness into your life today.
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His 30 ways to stay motivated include smiling when you wake up, doing something social every day, exercising, sleeping well and resolving relationship issues right now.

What these tips tell you is that you are in control of your own happiness.

Happiness at work does not mean getting a bigger pay cheque or getting your boss to stop calling you while you are on a holiday.

It does mean making a conscious decision to be happy and avoiding negative conversations and unhappy people as far as possible.



PHOTO: Studies on what makes people happy reveal that it doesn't have much to do with material goods or high achievement; it seems to whittle down to your outlook on life, and the quality of your relationships with the people around you.
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'Happiness is a mental state and the good news is that in whatever work situation, we can choose the state of mind to have,' says Mr Tan Swee Heng, a director for leadership and talent development at LZ Leadership International.

'The key is to choose to be happy with our work, until it becomes our mental habit... This is to prevent ourselves from being affected by adverse work situations or even by some of the unhappy talk or colleagues in the workplace.'

Dr Srikumar Rao, author of Happiness At Work, says the biggest obstacle to workplace happiness is believing that you are a prisoner of circumstance, powerless before events.

The truth is, you are responsible for the life that you have, he says.



PHOTO: Find a hobby you love. Engage in pleasurable activities.
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Mr Stephen Lew, a psychotherapist from the Positive Psychology Centre here, says: 'Happiness is a perception. It is a choice. It is possible only when you train your mind to do so. You need to build a mental muscle on a day-to-day basis.'

He suggests keeping a 'positive' journal in which you record three to five good things about yourself every day.

'If you record it for 21 days, there will be a physiological change. You will become more relaxed,' he says.

Another tip is to gaze in the mirror, look into your eyes and say three positive things to yourself.

Or you can wear a rubber band on your wrist and every time you start to think negatively, stretch the band to hit yourself. That will stop you from negative thinking, says Mr Lew.



'If their minds are focused on becoming excellent at work, they probably will not have the time or mind to dwell on 'unhappiness'.'
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In a lot of Mr Tan's leadership training and coaching sessions, leaders and employees are encouraged to make the choice to be extraordinary in their attitudes, skills and knowledge.

'If their minds are focused on becoming excellent at work, they probably will not have the time or mind to dwell on 'unhappiness',' says Mr Tan.

In an economically driven society like Singapore, people tend to peg the value of money to happiness.



PHOTO: Be happy right now
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Still, they may not realise that their material achievements such as an increment may not bring them a lot of happiness, says Mr Lew.

Research shows that gratitude such as recognition at work brings the largest amount of happiness while age, gender, physical attraction, social status and the amount of money one has have the smallest impact on happiness, he adds.

Happy managers and employees, says Mr Tan, are wonderful role models in the workplace. 'Like fragrance, they can infuse the place with their positive energy, causing others to also 'work happily'.'


Relax. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Happiness is largely a choice. Feel gratitude for all of the good in your life. Smile. ....
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It is surely not possible to be happy 24/7 and when adversity strikes, happy people will still crack but they recover faster, experts say.

'Happiness is not just about feeling good, it is about living longer. You will also be more likeable and have better relationships if you are happy,' says Mr Lew.



PHOTO: 5 Simple Steps To Enhance Your Happiness.
If you want to be happy, be. ~Leo Tolstoy
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PHOTO: Posted on Monday, November 14, 2011. By Victoria Anderson (in the blog of The Devoted Woman).
Meditating on Romans 12:9-21 (part 8).
  • Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
  • Be devoted to one another in brotherly love.
  • Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.
  • Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
  • Share with God's people who are in need.
  • Practice hospitality.
  • Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.
  • Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
  • Live in harmony with one another.
  • Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
  • Do not repay anyone evil for evil.
  • Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.
  • If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
  • Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.
  • On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap (remove) burning coals on his head."
  • Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
(Romans 12:9-21)
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